There needs to be a little more "just because".

                                                           


Eat a cupcake for breakfast.

Wear your super hero mask driving to work.

Smile at a stranger.

Turn a penny heads up for the next person that walks by.

Buy coffee for the quiet new girl in the office.

Donate that extra dollar at the grocery store.

Throw the change lying on the floor of your car into the cafe tip jar.

Drop your excessive left overs at the shelter.

Send a letter to the first person that comes to mind.

Text your friend across the country a silly joke.

When you think of someone, let them know.

Tell someone you love them. Not because they need to hear it, or because you want something in return. But just because that is what is running through your head in that exact moment.

Put the effort in. Not because of a demanded and expected end result but maybe just because it puts a smile on someones face. And sometimes it is okay to be a little selfish, ( I am not wearing that superhero mask driving to work for anyone but myself. Okay maybe that left over Big Fat Cupcake was just for me too). But there is still plenty of time for meaningful gestures towards others. Cherish it. Use it. Be creative. Or don't be. Simple is perfectly acceptable too.  Something so small can easily fill someone's heart.

When you receive the words like, "You have been at the forefront of my brain", or " You have been the best person in my life. Even on the days I could not help you form a smile", take them into account. Let them make you giddy for a hot second. Allow someone to express their appreciation for you just because they were thinking about you. And express it back. Just because.

Be more selfless. Sometimes you need to forget the question, "How exactly is this person going to benefit my life?" and just let them be a part of it. Because they want to be. Because that person allowed you to laugh. Because that person taught you something, even if you have not realized it yet.

Express the things that matter. People matter. Tell them that. But sometimes show them also. Not enough of that happens on a day to day basis. Show appreciation. Excessively. Because to you it might seem that way, but to them it is sincere. It is real.

I have had two cherished friends ask me fairly recently why I do the things I do for them. To me, that is simply friendship. To be there. To listen. To give advise when asked. To microwave a pizza when they forget to eat at 11:00 PM(because anyone trusting me with an oven would just be silly). To hold his hand as he expressed his deepest fear at 3:00 AM. To squeeze a little tighter during the hug goodbye because you can see the pain behind his eyes that he is too stubborn to let out. To write a note and leave it under the empty beer glass because you know written words actually mean more to him than spoken ones.

Do these things just because. Because it provides a little extra love and comfort to someone else. Stop expecting credit. It is more than enough for me that, in return, I am trusted enough to just be a part of their lives. Forget about the material things just for once. Stop expecting them, stop giving them just to get something in return. Do it JUST BECAUSE. For the reason that everyone deserves a little more "just because".

Until next time.

xx,

Kelsey